The Dark Side of Marrying for Money

It’s sad to know that in 2017 some women still find it more appealing to be someone’s better half rather than strive for their dream career. For decades, women have been fighting for equal rights, fighting to have the right to vote, fighting for equal opportunity in the workplace, and fighting for equal pay.  And why?  So that women DON’T have to marry for security rather than love. So that women can reach for the stars, chase their dreams and stand on their own two feet without a sponsor. To be someone’s equal, not their dependent. Here are 10 good reasons why you should think twice before you marry for money, before you become a sugarcoated prostitute. My male readers, this applies to you, too!

  1. You’ve been bought.  Everything comes with a price.  You’re not just the wife now; you’re the cook, the maid, laundry cleaner, personal assistant, sex slave and if you have kids, you’ll be the nanny too. You’re the help. Your spouse is now the proud owner of a subservient. And good luck asking the bread winner for help around the house.  That’s YOUR gig. Congrats!
  2. Nothing lasts forever, and financial security is no exception. Your spouse could lose it all.  
  3. As the old saying goes, “Show me the world’s most beautiful woman and I’ll show you a man who’s tired of sleeping with her.”  Looks fade and people get tired of a partner who just spends their money all day.
  4. You may be financially secure (as long as you’re married), but you’ll be stripped of your pride and dignity daily. Your spouse controls you now. As the bread winner, they will never respect the work you do around the house as daunting or laborious as it may be because it doesn’t generate income. If you worked, you might still be unappreciated, but you would have your own income.
  5. Money doesn’t buy happiness or love.  The majority of people who marry for money are miserable.
  6. It’s 2017 and people are treating marriage more like a business now. Many feel that if they’re going to be married, they prefer to be married to someone who has their own money.
  7. What if in 10 years from now, the marriage is over?  Most wealthy people will have you sign a pre-nup. Alimony is harder to get than you think.  And if a judge grants you alimony, it will be for a specific duration of time, not for life. Another factor to consider is that your wealthier spouse will have a better lawyer. You may have wasted 10 years of your life by being the spouse of a wealthy person. So what skills will you have then? How secure will you be?

Perhaps college and hard work do not seem so bad now. Not unless of course you’re content with being submissive. We only get one shot at life, so don’t waste yours by not living up to your full potential. You’re worth more than you think. And when you’re hardworking and independent, you will find your perfect better half. Jay-Z married Beyoncé, not the girl who sells make up in a mall part time.

LoveWhitney Austin